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We empower men experiencing same-sex attraction to live a life of purpose and possibility. Attractions are experiences, not definitions. Defeated? Discouraged? Confused?
Are you tired of your experiences of same-sex attraction being treated like a verdict about who you are and what your future can be? You’re in charge. Find your voice, honor your story, and chart your future in ways that align with your values, relationships, and goals.
Attractions Are Experiences, Not Definitions
Attraction is one part of a vast inner world—thoughts, feelings, choices, commitments, faith, culture, and dreams. Remembering that “attractions are experiences, not definitions” frees you to approach life with curiosity instead of fear. It helps you notice patterns without turning them into prisons, and to relate to same-sex attraction with self-compassion rather than shame.
You’re in Charge—With Courage and Clarity
Instead of wondering who you are and where life will take you, focus on who you are becoming. Let your actions reflect your deepest commitments. You’ll become someone who lives with purpose and possibility. You will “Own Your Identity.”
What taking charge can look like
- Clarify your core values and the kind of relationships you want to cultivate.
- Build a circle of trustworthy, nonjudgmental support—friends, mentors, or an LGBTQ-affirming therapist.
- Practice self-compassion; reduce shame by naming feelings without self-attack.
- Strengthen body-mind habits: sleep, exercise, mindfulness, and creative expression.
- Set boundaries around labels; use only those that help you grow.
- Invest in purpose—service, learning, career, and rituals that reinforce meaning.
When labels feel heavy
Labels can clarify, but they can also confine. If you feel pressured by identity labels or narratives about same-sex attraction, step back and reconnect with what matters to you right now.
- Pause and breathe; notice your body and emotions without judgment.
- Name what’s true today—your needs, hopes, and boundaries.
- Choose one next right step that aligns with your values.
- Celebrate small wins to build momentum.
Honoring Your Story
Your life isn’t a debate to be won—it’s a story to be honored. Let us help you find your voice, honor your story, and chart your future. With patience, support, and clarity, you can relate to same-sex attraction in ways that respect your dignity and your dreams.
FAQs
What does “attractions are experiences, not definitions” mean?
It means attraction is information, not an ultimatum. Experiences can guide reflection, but they don’t have to dictate your worth, destiny, or the total meaning of your life.
Is it okay to feel conflicted?
Yes. Complex feelings are part of being human. Approach them with curiosity and kindness, and seek supportive spaces where you can process without pressure.
Can someone change their sexual orientation?
Leading medical and mental health organizations report that attempts to change sexual orientation are ineffective and can be harmful. A healthier path is self-acceptance, support, and living in alignment with your values.
How do I talk to loved ones about this?
Share what you feel and need, not what you think they want to hear. Set clear boundaries, ask for listening rather than fixing, and take conversations at a pace that feels safe.
What if I don’t want a label?
That’s okay. Use language that helps you grow, and leave aside language that confines you. Your identity can be a living, evolving story.
